Heaven is under the feet of a mother. In the background of this phrase, there are factors such as the role of the mother as a woman, the importance of that role. Now if a mother is told that you work and leave your children in daycare centers, you are not a good mother, there is no paradise under your feet or the needs of an ideal mother are less than they need. So how do such mothers dare to do something positive and good in life?
Such talk about proper care for children in Pakistan is often heard by job moms, and the topic is debated back in the days when a video of PIA daycare went viral on social media.
In this video, it can be seen that a daycare worker is hitting a baby. The video was shared in several Facebook groups, after which some constituents tried to create the impression that mothers who work may not be good mothers.
The BBC talked to a few working mothers, working mothers in this regard, and tried to find out if working professionals were actually less like mothers than social thought.
Based in Karachi, Karim Online Taxi Service's Head of Communication Madhya Javed Qureshi has been leaving her child's daycare center for three years. They say why we only blame mothers. Parents have a role in the upbringing of children.
Madiya Javed Qureshi speaks of the issue from a positive perspective, not to look at the work of working editors in a negative way.
"Our discussions should be about improving daycare centers while we are focusing on the negative aspects of the picture within them. Instead of making the events of the events unfold, the professors of the working mothers create better conditions for them to think, appreciate their role, and create favorable conditions for them to work, rather than create a mental illusion and conscience for them. Is needed. '
Madiya Javed believes that 'our focus should be on making daycare centers safe and good for children, not on the moral criticism of women who leave their children there. Service at the daycare center can be good and bad. So we have to question the service, not the people who are benefiting from this service. '
He added that his example is just like how a woman should be harassed and instead of saying bad things to the harasser, we start criticizing the woman who herself has been harassed.
Madhya also said, "We have no right to form an opinion about anybody without knowing its specific circumstances." Each one has their own choice. If a mother feels that she is educated and should work, this is her choice. There is nothing wrong with someone who thinks he or she has to take care of their children at home. We must take both sides of the argument together. '
Shaheen Ashraf is also a working mother and specializes in social enterprise software. They say that because of employment, they have to repeatedly hear from family and colleges about what kind of mother they are leaving children.
He says some people even say that there is no paradise under the feet of mothers like you.
She says she wants to do something good for moms who work by opening her daycare center on a low budget. There should be a regulatory authority to register daycare centers so that they can be monitored.
Sahar Arshad works as a digital device analyst at a mobile phone company and also runs a support group for mothers on Facebook.
Sahar has two children and has been employed for eight years. "If something bad happens to a child at a daycare center, it does not mean that we do not have to leave the child at any daycare center," he said. It is as if one of the driving accidents happened, they should stop driving. Likewise, instead of blaming the mothers of the babies in the daycare center, we must think that the center where the children are being sent is a good place. '
'If someone says that mothers who are employed are not good mothers and they have absolutely no idea of their children, saying and thinking that is wrong.'
Do we know why she is doing this? They may be raising their children alone or they may not have a father with the child and it is important for them to work to raise their children. '
Sore dislikes behavior, such as hurrying to form opinions about others while focusing on important social and social needs.
She says she also knows some mothers who quit their jobs to give their children more time, but that didn't happen, but they became so busy with their homework that they could get their children. Could not pay proper attention to.
'At the time of leaving work, he had difficulty with time management while focusing on his homework and children.'
We also talked to a single mother, Qur'an, who is no longer employed. They say that every mother's situation is different and it depends on what decision she makes, but no one should have the right to form an opinion about them.
Quirin is from Gujranwala and was an assistant HR manager at the beverage company Coca-Cola. They are part of many mothers' support groups on social media. They quit their jobs after the birth of their baby because they did not have a satisfactory daycare center in Gujranwala, nor did they have the option of leaving their child at home.
Qur'an says that he quit his job because he did not need such income but sometimes he had to hear why he was sitting at home after writing so much.
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